Want To, Get To, Have To

Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

Monday, January 3, 2010

It’s that time of year again when I sit down and categorize my life.  I break all the things I do into three categories: want to, get to, and have to.  This allows me to make a clear assessment of where all my time and energy goes.  This process allows me to make sure that I am utilizing my time in ways that contribute to whom I am and allow me to contribute to society.

Personally, I want to participate in activities and endeavors that serve me and allow me to constantly evolve into a better version of myself.  In addition, the activity must also allow me to serve others and give back.  I have learned over time that when I am involved in such activities I am fulfilled rather than drained. I wand to do things that fall into categories “want to” and “have to”.  Anything that falls ONLY in the “have to” category is something I re-evaluate.

When I look at the “have to” category I ask myself questions and then assess.  I ask questions such as am I fully engaged? Has the activity ran its course in my life? Am I still growing and gaining in personal growth? Am I giving more than I gain? If there are more negatives than positives then I re-evaluate whether or not I remain involved. Often I realize the time has come and the activity has run its course for me at the time De-cluttering the old makes room for the new. Walking away and closing a door is not always easy but is sometimes necessary.  But, the beauty of one door closing is that another opens.

This activity has served me well and I find it to be an amazing start to a new year.  It allows me to start the year with a clean slate and to eliminate any activity that does not serve me.  I have found that this re-organizing of my activities allows me to serve others at a greater level.  I urge you to try the same!

Assess your life are your activities those which you want to, get to, or have to? Check yourself and make sure you are engaging in those which you want to and get to.  If you view it as a have to it’s not serving you and you are not serving it.

Love. Laugh. Adjust.

Dr. Martha Nessler, Innate Girl