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Is it possible to regret what you have done, yet not regret who you are?

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Is it possible to regret what you have done, yet not regret who you are?

Or by regretting what you have done are you regretting who you have become?

It is inevitable that throughout life, most, if not all, individuals will have one experience or more that leaves them asking internal questions such as, “What was I thinking?” or “Why did I do that?” or “I can’t believe I thought that was a good idea!”

The interesting paradox in life is all that we have done in the past creates who we are today in the present, yet so many people live in regret over what has happened in the past.

I have definitely had my share of experiences that were unpleasant and at the time I felt extreme sadness or regret in regards to the event, but there is a difference between experiencing regret and allowing regret to minimize your experience.

There was a time when I didn’t understand that both what had happened to me and that I had done, positive or negative, depending on how I perceived it; molded who I was today.

Once I was able to understand that every event I had experienced, whether I was actively or inactively involved, had a direct influence and contributed to my existence and my self-evolution.photo

By realizing each event plays an integral role in one’s journey, allows gratitude for all experiences, regardless of perception, because each event plays an integral role in one’s evolution as a human being.  It is imperative that individual’s acknowledge where they have been and what they have done reveal who an individual is today.

Exhausted from living in regret? You are not alone.

You are simple shift in perspective away from setting yourself free and releasing the weight of sadness that only anchors us to perceived negative experiences, freeing yourself to fully live.

Shift your perspective and watch your existence elevate with these easy steps:

Change the meaning of the event for YOU.

It is important to understand that YOU give meaning to all your experiences; they are not negative or positive until you decide their meaning in regards to your perception of the experience. YOU and you alone decide whether an experience is positive or negative.

It’s okay if your perception varies from others involved in the same situation.

It is possible that two people can have the same event happen at the same time, same place, same environment, and have a different perceived outcome.

Live in gratitude for all your experiences, while you were creating them they were simultaneously creating you – molding you.

Simply shift your perceived outcome of the event(s) from negative to positive – how can something that has contributed to your existence be negative?

Every event that has happened to you over the course of time has contributed to the individual you are today, without all that YOU have been through YOU would not be you!

Replace regret with content, “I am content with what has happened”, relish in the knowing that all events have propelled you to your current position in life – embrace gratitude.

Don’t let past experiences paralyze you, free yourself of regret and allow them to propel you.

It is common that individuals allow events to paralyze them, rather than embracing the experience and allowing it to propel them and enhance their human expression and existence.

There is a misconception that only the positive experiences in life propel us and mold us, shockingly, if it is allowed the negative experiences often have the greatest ability to enhance human existence.

Shift your perspective – shift your life!

When force is applied to matter it either molds it or breaks it, the same is true of each and every event in your life, they will mold you or break you – be putty in God’s hand and allow Him to mold you!

Enhancing Life Expression,

Dr. Martha Nessler@drmarthanessler

www.drmarthanessler.com

Stop Telling Stories and Start Living Your Life

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People love to tell stories.   The love of story telling begins as a child, sitting on a parent or grandparents lap listening as they take you to a world outside the one in which you currently reside! The more creative, imaginative, and emotional the storyteller, the better the story, the more real the story becomes. It’s interesting how we carry certain things through our lives, such as telling stories.   The only difference is as we age rather than being told a story we tell ourselves a story and the more creative, imaginative, and emotional we are about “our story” the more real it becomes.

Your thoughts create your reality therefore what you think about you bring about.  Stop and think for a second exactly what you are thinking about.  When you evaluate your thoughts you may realize why you are not living the life of your dreams.  You also may see exactly why you are creating the exact set of circumstances you are so eager to be free from.  Your external is a mirror image of your internal; if you don’t like what you in the exterior world you live in, some internal housekeeping is necessary.

We are at a point in time where the majority of people in society are not happy and while some are seeking change and growth and working towards creating the life of their dreams, many have no idea where to begin.  Whether you are just now starting to make a shift in your perspective to turn your frown upside down and your world around or you are an individual seeking higher awareness it is important to assess the stories you tell yourself.  You and only you can make the necessary shift to stop telling your story and start living out your dream!

This past year I have been coaching people, traveling their journey with them, as they begin to create the life of their dreams and letting go of the stories that enslave them.   I have learned so much about each individual, myself, and about the ability of an individual to tell a story about him or herself or an event so much that it becomes the reality in which they live.  Events, those we perceive as positive and negative are inevitable, attaching to and living in the confines of those events is a choice.

We always get to choose and we always get to live with the result of that choice.  Every action has a reaction, which usually depicts our next action.  Life becomes an accumulation of an individuals actions and reactions.  Life can be and should be utter bliss and beginning to LIVE the life of your dreams takes one small action, simply letting go of the story that imprisons you, your perceived reality.   A small action that shuts the door to the story you are telling and opens the door to the future you begin creating.

Sit down and get clear on what is your reality and what is your perceived reality.  You may be surprised at the stories you are telling yourself, dwelling in, and keeping you from really living.  Love yourself enough to let go of your story and begin living the life of your dreams.  Only you can create your reality, create one that is worth living in!

I have developed a protocol to assist in letting go of your story by falling in love with yourself.  The majority of Americans are not in love with who they are at an innate level.  I was there at one point, so I know.  If you nee help with this process please let me know by contacting me at drm@drmarthanessler.com .  Know that you are not alone, unless you choose to be.   Allow yourself to let go and begin to love yourself again or for the first time!

Love. Laugh. Adjust.

Dr. Martha Nessler, Innate Girl       drm@drmarthanessler.com

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Chiropractic: Miracle vs. Expectation

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Everyone loves a miracle. Miracles provide that feel good endorphin rush that just when you think a scenario has no hope of changing direction, “poof!” and God’s divine intervention shines through and the tables are turned. Have we lowered our expectations due to lack of hope in such a way that expectations are often misconstrued as miracles?

What it is a miracle? The Webster-Merriam Dictionary defines a miracle as “an extraordinary event manifesting divine intervention in human affairs”. A miracle is something unexplainable that occurs, an extraordinary unexplainable event. Being stranded in a desert where there has NEVER been water and suddenly you see an oasis ahead of you or being ran over by a car and walking away with NO injuries are both perfect examples of miracles; both are instances where there was clearly divine intervention. A miracle is always unexpected and exemplifies God’s perfect intent.

Expected is the antonym of unexpected and is defined in the same dictionary as “to anticipate or look forward to the coming or occurrence of” or “to consider probable of”. Expecting something will happen is an expectation. Each year you expect the grass to turn green, the flowers to bloom, and the seasons to change because they are normal occurrences. Expectations are accompanied by a sense of knowing they too occur via the intention of God but because they are rhythmic in occurrence often they are not given the recognition of a miracle.

Expectations are of divine intention and miracles are of divine intervention. The innate function of the all-living creatures is divine intention; all living creatures possess an innate. Innate joins two cells and produces a human in 280 days, wings birds and intuitively they fly, fang animals and inherently they know to kill there own food, and gives breath and life to every living creature. All living creatures possess an inborn potential to function and heal themselves innate is the driving force. Innate delivers a mental impulse that allows for full manifestation of life, innate must be expressed.

To the educated mind the releasing of the imprisoned impulse in chiropractic is often viewed as a “chiropractic miracle”. The phrase “chiropractic miracle” is often used in such a context as, “My friend who was dying of cancer went to this chiropractor and got well. It was really a miracle!” Or “My friend’s son was born deaf and started seeing this chiropractor and now he has full hearing. It was truly a miracle. We are just so blessed.” These are just a couple of examples that exemplify how innate’s inherent manifestation is often perceived by man to be a miracle. “Chiropractic Expectation” better explains innate’s intention. “Chiropractic Expectation” reinforces the anticipation and probability that what is happening is exactly what is supposed to happen.

Knowing innate’s intention and complexity I can see where chiropractic releasing the imprisoned impulse can appear miraculous to the educated man. But, it is imperative for the preservation and progression of chiropractic that we educate and explain so that chiropractic is understood as an expectation and not a miracle. This differentiation will allow people to begin to grasp that chiropractic is not health thru divine intervention but that it facilitates full expression of innate via divine intention.

Love. Laugh. Adjust.

Dr. Martha Nessler, Innate Girl

drm@drmarthanessler.com

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The Power of Simply Saying, “WHAT?”

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“What?” in the world is going on with the people in the world? More and more I find the word “WHAT?” rolling off my tongue in utter shock in response to most things I hear these days! Sometimes, I feel like my grandma when I catch myself wondering what is happening in the world and with the people the world. We have gotten so far the root our creation, rather than trusting in God and His perfect design of the human body society has placed faith in man for fear that innate merely does not exist or in fact is not capable of maintaining our existence.  It is this shift in perspective of the percentage of humans that makes me say, think, and wonder “WHAT?”

In my opinion we don’t emphatically ask “WHAT?” enough. “WHAT?” in terms of “What are you talking about?” or “What does that mean?” or “What in the world?” And I don’t mean a weak “WHAT?” but a powerful, concerned, confused, “WHAT?” A “WHAT?” that makes the receiver of the “WHAT?” stop and think about the words that just formulated in their mind and rolled off their tongue. In my opinion, “WHAT?” is one of the most under used and powerful words that can be used to give H.O.P.E. (Helping Open People’s Eyes) and to wake people up! But, you have to say it like you are utterly confused and dumbfounded, come from a loving place, and say it with concern as to shake the current belief system of the average person on the planet earth.

My existence is very interesting, I live in the world but I don’t live with the world.  I see the world very different than the other 99.9% of its inhabitants.  Truthfully, if I didn’t have a copy of my birth certificate and the same forehead as my dad I would honestly entertain the idea that I may in fact be an alien from another planet. I have also entertained the idea that I am living in a movie similar to The Truman Show starring Jim Carey and that I am in fact in a “pretend” world where EVERYONE else is an actor/actress and the world salivates daily to watch my reaction to the nonsense I encounter, just to capture my reaction.  I’m fairly positive that neither is the case and if you know the truth please keep it to yourself and let me find out in due time, there is no rush.

It is the mindset of the majority of the people that I share this planet with that has me concerned and I find strength when I meet someone who is either from my planet or rather than sleeping they are awake.  Unlike most people I don’t believe that sick and dying is the way life was intended, that the body can not heal itself and needs the help of outside sources, that we are merely here to exist, that we have no control, and that anything I am told must be true.  Rather, I believe that sick and dying is an option, the body was designed to heal itself and simply needs no interference, I believe we all have a purpose, that we can control our own reality, and that most of what I hear from others is self-serving rather than true. While some may call me an optimist and others may claim I am crazy, there are those whose belief system is in line with mine and not only understand each other but our innates resonate at a cellular level.  Sadly, there are more that see my way of thought as “crazy” or “optimistic”; whatever the case I thoroughly enjoy the paradigm I have chosen to live in.

If I were to list out every single statement that I have heard within the last month that made me say, “WHAT?” there is a possibility that this blog would be in the running for the Guinness Book of Records for the World’s Longest blog.  I’ll list a few of my favorite words utter by others that have resulted in a “WHAT?” such as “I just got done with chemotherapy, I am healthy!” or “I’d rather be fat and sick than eat vegetables!” or “The prescription I am on made me healthy!” to all these statements I shockingly replied, “WHAT?” These are just a few of the many fallacies that society holds close to their heart and blindly follows it as concrete evidence that man is wiser than God.

In my opinion, the word “WHAT?” is a perfect wake up call, a siren if you will alerting the person with whom you are speaking to that the words they just utter shocked you and that you need explanation to understand.  It is at this time that they re-think their statement and can re-articulate if needed and or repeat the same statement.  You are now in the perfect position to ask questions regarding their “WHAT?” statement such as “Why do you believe that?” or “Who told you that?” or “Does that make to sense to you?” or “What does that mean?” These questions allow the individual to use the Socratic method to derive the necessary info to continue with their current belief or to make a necessary paradigm shift to enhance their life.

Start using “WHAT?”  Wake people up to the truth! Make them realize what they are saying is crazy! Wake them up to the truth…you owe it to them!

Dr. Martha Nessler, Innate Girl

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Fortunate Strokes of Serendipity

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Fortunate Strokes of Serendipity

One of my favorite movies of all time is the movie Serendipity. In the movie the two lead actors meet in a department store at Christmas. They are both last minute shopping for gifts and attempt to buy the same “last pair” of black gloves.  Their debate between the gloves leads them to coffee, which leads them to instant infatuation with each other.  The problem is they are both in committed relationship, which both are secretly unhappy with and the question of “what if?’ looms in both their minds.  The lead actress encourages the actor to “trust” saying that “what will be will be” because if in fact their meeting is “serendipitous” then it is in fact “inevitable”. Through a chain of serendipitous events the two end up together because they trust and remain “present”.

After watching the movie serendipity, which was well over ten years ago, I looked up the word serendipity, which means an occurrence and development of events by chance in a happy or beneficial way.  After reading the word a few times over allowing it to sink in, I decided that day that I wanted a lot more serendipity in my life.  To me there was something beautiful and simplistic about a life that was filled with fortunate strokes of serendipity.

I can honestly say that since deciding that I wanted to attract in to my life more serendipitous events, I have done just that.  Now don’t get me wrong since then my life has not been completely serendipitous, because I am human and human nature is to force and control.  What makes an event serendipitous is that it happens by chance; therefore, serendipity cannot and will not happen with force.

In the movie the couple believes that if they serendipitously allow life to lead, then what will be will be. Such is true of fully “letting go and God” rather than pushing for what you want and forcing situations.  The act of letting go allows you to pull into your life what is truly meant to be.  I remind myself each day to “let go, sit back, let God, and enjoy the ride”. This mantra has allowed me to attract many fortunate strokes of serendipity into my life.

Love. Laugh. Adjust.

Dr. Martha Nessler

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“Lightening Bug Moments”: Innate Communication

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Lightening bugs let you know that summer has arrived and regardless of age they generate a smile and sense of awe.  What makes lightening bugs so intriguing is that they make a light within their bodies.  Through the process known as bioluminescence they internally light up to attract a mate.  The special cells within their abdomen allow them to illuminate, thus becoming more attractive and more noticeable.  Illumination is an unspoken communication to let possible mates know if they are or are not interested in mating.  Bioluminescence is innate to the lightening bug and other organisms and is a dominate form of communication.


Since February, I have done a dozen EPOCs and COREs across the nation.  I traveled coast to coast, been to small towns and large cities, and spoken to a wide variety of audiences full of chiropractors and their support teams. Regardless of the city I was in or the size of the crowd that I had attracted one thing was always the same, the feeling of innately knowing the crowd had had a pivotal shift.  Whether I am sharing my heart in front of thousands or one-one with a practice member, when the light bulb goes off I know they got it!

People are no different than lightening bugs, while we don’t physically illuminate since we are not innately adorned with the process of bioluminescence, we still light up when we get a cellular shift.  I love looking into the eyes of someone, connecting with them, and innately knowing they were different just moments before.  The innate ability to create a virtual luminescence is an intimate and silent form of communication, that says “I got it.  Thank you.”

At the end of the day, whether in the office, out and about, or having just shared with a crowd I always reflect and re-hash to see the days success and continually make the necessary changes in my behavior and dialogue to constantly serve at a higher level.  To me the more “lightening bug moments” I saw in my day the more successful the day.  And the beauty of my lightening bugs is that they live year round, rather than being seasonal.  Just like the lightening bugs in nature, the lightening bugs in my life bring a smile to my life, elevate my happiness, and allow me to feel innately successful at the end of the day; they awe me.

Beginning to see the lives of the people I touch on a daily basis as lightening bugs has allowed me to have a deeper appreciation for innate and it’s abilities.  I love that that my “lightening bug moments” have allowed me to know silently that their was an innate shift within a given individual.  This small shift in my perspective has made an immense impact on my life and level of service.  Start looking for the “lightening bug moments” in your life and just like when you were a child, sit back, smile, and be awed.

 

 

Replacing Anchors With Roots Catapults Growth

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Replacing Anchors With Roots Catapults Growth

Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

Monday, August 15, 2011

Change is hard, period, and sometimes change is really, really hard. Changes means growth, and even though growth is good; growth hurts because it stretches you out of your comfort zone and usually means you have to let go. Whether you are letting go of a past story, relationship, friendship, memory, outcome to a scenario, someone, or something, it’s not easy. It’s hard when you realize that you have come to a point in your life where you have grown up and are in turn are growing on. More so than not we anchor ourselves in the past or present and in turn inhibit and resist growth. When we come to the realization that a situation, someone, or something has become an anchor, which is holding us back, the time comes to make a cognitive and emotional switch, where the anchor is released and replaced with a root, which will allow growth.

There is a big difference between anchors and roots. Anchors are meant to connect a vessel to the floor of a body of water to prevent it from drifting. In our lives anchors do the same thing keeping us from drifting therefore keeping us idle. In an idle state we are unable to grow because movement is life. Much like an anchor is an integral part of a vessel, so is a root connecting a plant it to its soil bed and providing nutrients, food, and water. The root is a plant’s strength in storms with through tumultuous winds and serves as a preventative mechanism against erosion; a strong root allows for growth, provides support, and helps sustain life. Therefore an anchor hinders growth by mechanistically tying us down and a root is a vitalistic connection allowing evolution from past and present to future.

Inevitably the time comes when you have to decide if you are ready to catapult into the future and evolve into an even better version of yourself or if remaining in your present sate, which no longer serves you is a better option because it is safe and feels good? It boils down to the ever-present battle of feeling versus function. There is a huge difference between feeling and function. Feeling comes from the emotion that is tied to a set of circumstances, an individual, or something. Often a feeling will hold us back and keep us from functioning at an optimal level. These feelings vary in degree and can be any emotion on the spectrum from happy, sad, love, anger, fear, numb or another. Whether positive or negative it is necessary to assess whether or not the circumstances or individual that is causing the emotion is also allowing optimal function. When a situation impairs our function it is time to replace the anchor with a root and let growth occur; as you catapult into your next evolution the root gives you the sense of security necessary to persevere in faith, leaving behind your past and present and soaring into the future. Knowing that although unknown, what’s next is a necessary progression.

Only you can decide when the time is right to allow a necessary shift to occur by releasing the anchor and replacing it with a root. The root then becomes a reminder of where you have been, holds the memories that warm your heart and feeds your soul, and supports your continual growth. The release of the anchor instantly catapults you and “where you are” is now a “where you were”. Enjoy the journey and remember everything is a stepping-stone, until it becomes a stopping point, which in hindsight was always a stepping-stone.

Love. Laugh. Adjust.

Dr. Martha Nessler, innate Girl

Can You Fall in Love With What You Do?

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Dr. Martha’s Monday Motivational

Monday, May 16, 2011

Can you remember the first time you fell “in love”.  I was twelve years old and his name was Greg.  I thought he hung the moon.  He was the cool basketball player and I was a cheerleader.  In my mind he was a hunk and I was a super lucky girl to be “going out” with him. Because we were in love I felt the need to tell everyone.  I wanted to make sure that everyone knew I was head over heels for Greg.  To make sure that everyone was clear he was mine I wrote his name on my jeans in pen (crossing fingers it would be permanent), I scribbled “I heart Greg” on my new white Keds, and made sure when decorating for basketball games my pom-pom hung on the wall by his basketball.  It didn’t matter what others thought, it only matter that they knew I was all about Greg. As a constant reminder to all that he was mine I made sure to talk about him constantly day and night.  Plain and simple, I was in love with Greg!

Looking back I am not sure I was really “in love” or maybe it’s just that my understanding of what “in love” is has just changed.  One thing I do know is that I really, really liked Greg and was passionate about him.  As I have aged falling in love is different, more real and with more substance. I have also come to the realization that falling in love is not limited to finding a mate.

What is falling love? I think it varies from person to person and from personality type to type, especially when we look at its expression.  But, across the board its safe to say that falling in love creates a sense of invincibility that enables an individual do what may be considered “crazy”. The intense emotions that come from falling love almost gives the impression that when in love you are exactly that invincible.

The intensity of being “in love” escalates with age.  Where in junior high you simply write on your jeans or held hands everywhere you went the stakes change.  Driving hundreds of miles to spend a few hours with someone, talking endless hours on the phone, staying awake to talk rather than sleep, or even serenading publicly despite being tone deaf are all things which being in love will drive you to perform.  Just like the stakes change as we age they also change when we go from person to career.

Passion can be equated to falling in love.  We have all met those people who absolutely love what they do.  Their sheer love of what they do evokes strong emotion from all who they come in contact with,  paving a way for others to get lost in their euphoria.  We call these people passionate and you could safely say that they were “in love” with what they do. Just talking to them gets your heart racing you are flooded with feel good endorphins. Listening to them express love for their what they do allows you, for a moment in time, to escape your world and enter into theirs.  Many times their passion evokes such emotion that  you are lead to purchase what they have to sell or find yourself wanting to learn more about their art or product.  Passionate people will do whatever it takes to convey their message.  They will write about it, wear clothing that expresses and educates, spend countless hours enhancing their knowledge, increasing awareness to the public, and the list goes on.  Regardless of what they do it is safe to assume they are in love with their art.

Do people know what you do?  Would people call you passionate? Does your love of what you do evoke an emotion from others? If so, awesome, keep up the great work! If not and it’s what you want then start to take ownership.  Give yourself permission to fall in love with what you do. When we fall in love with a person the return is their love that gives a warmth in our heart and drives us to love more.  Falling in love what you do is similar as it gives a return in the form of fulfillment and purpose compelling us to pour more of ourselves into what we do.  The passion then becomes the fuel that drives us

Love. Laugh. Adjust.

Dr. Martha Nessler, Innate Girl