8 Ways to Unstuck Yourself

It’s time to unstuck yourself!

Being stuck is no fun, whether your stuck at a certain weight, stuck at a job you hate, stuck in a relationship, wherever you are stuck being stuck is no fun!

The hard core reality about being stuck is that the only person who can unstuck you is you, which can be a somewhat painful and dreadful epiphany!

Whether you are a free bird feeling caged or a more cautious individual a little more afraid to pull off the ball and chain holding you back, being stuck is no fun and the quicker you get unstuck the better!

Just like anything in life, getting unstuck is a process, a process which can seem daunting but once the tension starts to ease, you get the wind back in your sail and start to cruise you will be thankful you went through the steps to unstuck yourself and you will be in sailing in gratitude!

8 Steps to Unstucking Yourself

  1. Create the time and space to get unstuck.

You didn’t get stuck over night, getting stuck was a process, so is getting unstuck!

Carve out some time, which will vary by situation and individual, for you to really get clear on your current sticky situation! I get that you may be busy, but honestly make it a priority, unless you just LOVE being stuck. 

Create a space that allows you to really dig deep into your heart space with music that inspires you in an environment that allows you to be creative and diffuse some motivational oils like Citrus Bliss, Peppermint, Motivate or my blend, “Get Out of Bed and Get Going” (grapefruit, douglas fir, tangerine and spearmint).

You can choose to write it out, talk it out, think it out, draw it out or whatever suits your style, just get clarity around why you are stuck with the next 7 steps!

2. Commit to completing the process.

It’s human nature to want to run from situations that are painful or stressful, commit to getting yourself unstuck no matter what it takes, how bad it hurts, or how you feel.  All situations have different circumstances that will have an impact on the “unstucking” process, but don’t give up and stay stuck – is that really an option? 

3. Accept the fact you threw down the exact anchor that’s holding you back.

This is probably the hardest part of getting unstuck and why so many people stay stuck for so long.  It’s not easy to admit that you are why you are stuck, you and you alone.  It’s so much easier and definitely more fun to blame someone else but shifting the blame will leave you anchored while everyone else around you sails!

Yes, it is definitely a possibility that someone co-created with you and you got stuck together but to blame him, her or them for the anchor that holds you back is pointless and won’t get you unstuck any quicker.

4. Look at the angles.

Take a good hard look at the situation, viewing it from all angles.  If other individuals are involved acknowledge the part that each of you played in the process and acknowledge all parties for their involvement. 

It’s extremely easy to place blame on others than to assume responsibility for your actions but really no one is keeping you stuck but you!

5. Get clear on how you could have handled yourself or the situation or both differently.

Although painful to acknowledge you could be placed in the exact same situation again and better to be prepared than to end up not only returning to the same spot but stuck there too!

Yes, it happens but it doesn’t have to happen to you.

This is one of the easier steps with hindsight usually being the better vision, but this step can often be accompanied by some heavy emotions so if you are like me grab a box of tissues because you are about to see how your own choices got you where you are today!

6. Make a list of everything you have learned by being stuck, whether positive or negative do a brain dump and get it all out.

Struggles are lessons, just like school lessons they teach you something and just like school you get to decide whether you learn.  The only real difference from school is that there is no teacher to mark your paper and tell you what you should have learned or to prompt you along so that you pass the test.  You are the teacher so get out your red pen and get crystal clear on the lesson plan because this is the test and if you don’t pass this one with flying colors you will see this test again. 

7. Gratitude

Take a look at the list you made in step #6 with all the lessons you have learned and say, “thank you” for the lessons.  It’s so easy to be frustrated when you are stuck casting blame and wondering why me, but once you have liberated yourself spend some time in gratitude.  If you really took the time in step #6 you will have plenty to say thanks about here in step #7.

8. Celebrate.

Congratulations, you set yourself free! Celebrate being unstuck and all that you learned “unstucking” yourself!  If you don’t celebrate your achievements who will?

Relish in the way it feels to have gotten clear and motivated to achieve the outcome you want and deserve! Save this article for a friend or in case you find yourself with an anchor holding you back!

Integrity Must Be Restored to the CCE: Act Today for Chiropractic Tomorrow

Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

Monday, October 3, 2011

Integrity Must Be Restored to the CCE: Act Today for Chiropractic Tomorrow

We are at a critical time in chiropractic, where we have the ability to take the reigns back and guide our profession in the way in which it was intended! I am not speaking in regards to style of practice but to scope of practice. The scope of practice has always included and should always include the statement “without drugs and surgery”. The chiropractic profession began as a drugless profession and to preserve its integrity it must remain a drugless profession. More and more there are groups within the profession, such as the ACA who are seeking to change the scope of practice to include drugs and surgery. As a profession we have to step and stop this ludicrousness. It is imperative that we make changes throughout the profession to preserve the profession. The Chiropractic Council on Chiropractic Education is the governing force behind the curriculum taught in chiropractic colleges in the United States. To change the though pattern of chiropractors we must change the thoughts being put into the minds of chiropractors. The CCE currently controls and has controlled chiropractic as a profession by dictating to the schools what they must educate on in order to be accredited. But, rather than taking us farther as a profession, they are taking us farther from the foundation of our profession! Each year we have moved farther and farther from the principles from which we were established and as long as the CCE is in control we will continue to move farther from those principles. Rather thank learning more chiropractic while in school students the curriculum is and has been weighted heavy in medical curriculum. We are producing medi-practors because the CCE has set it up that way! Stopping this train of thought before it even begins is crucial to preserve the principle of chiropractic. Right now we have a small window of time to begin to restore the integrity to the CCE and therefore to chiropractic! Every five years the CCE is up for renewal of recognition by the USDE, this is that year. We have accomplished the first step necessary, letting the USDE know that CCE needs to be re-evaluated, re-structured, and re-formed. They have heard our cry and in December there will be a hearing where representatives from our profession will be addressing the issues of the CCE as it stands today. I applaud those of you who took time to share your heart and passion by writing letters to the USDE your cry did not go unheard! Thank you and now its time for the next leg in the journey to regain integrity to CCE. As an added strength to our case we need the support of politicians to make our case stronger and getting their attention is the next step. The support of politicians will be a HUGE support in the December hearing. There is power in numbers and a petition is the best way to show the numbers in regards to support. We have a petition on under the heading. U.S. Department of Education: Restore integrity to the CCE. It is important that we get as many signatures as possible on this online petition. For posting on Facebook and emailing for support you can use the following URL, Get your community on board, set up a computer in your office and make it easy for patients to sign the petition as well as email their contacts to sign the petition. The support of politicians is crucial and will strengthen our case that integrity must be restored to the CCE. This petition is concrete proof that chiropractic without drugs and surgery is of the utmost importance to all those that are part of the chiropractic profession: chiropractors, staff, patients, advocates, and students. It is our objective that politicians realize the importance in re-evaluating, re-structuring, and re-forming the CCE to preserve chiropractic and, this petition will support that objective. When politicians realize how important the preservation of chiropractic is not only to chiropractors but also to chiropractic patients, students, and advocates our case will be strengthened. And while you are on the Internet get on Facebook, and join “The Movement for Chiropractic Quality and Integrity” and “like” it. Let your stance be known! Take five minutes out of your day and make a video showing your support and calling chiropractors and chiropractic leaders to action! We received this sacred trust from our fathers, D.D. and B.J, they asked us to keep it pure and not sullied or deformed. Today, I am asking the same, I am asking that you join me in preserving our profession. We are chiropractors and what separates us is the use of no external forces, no drugs or surgery. We are a light in a sick and dying world, we must keep that light lit! Today is the day to step up and be heard! We are at a crossroad and have the chance to grab the reigns and re-direct the profession, moving farther away from drugs and surgery and NOT closer. I love you because you love what I love and it is that love that will strengthen our mission. If you need me I am here, email me at! I love you! Love. Laugh. Adjust. Dr. Martha Nessler, Innate Girl

Why Can’t I Get Get Pregnant?

Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

Monday, August 29, 2011

“Why Am I Not Pregnant?”

This past year and a half I have been supporting a dear friend as she has struggled with infertility.  Up until recently she didn’t want my expertise. Sometimes our friends and family are the hardest to reach, but through it all she has had my undying support.  After a year of struggling with pregnancy, she and her husband got tested and were both found to be fertile leaving them even more frustrated.  They began giving her hormone injections, which just heightened her emotions, increased her weight, and decreased her hope when nothing changed.  The next step was IVF (In Vitro Fertilization), which landed her on bed rest when her ovaries rejected the eggs and her reproductive system became inflamed. Sitting in her consult with tears streaming down her face she asked, “Why can’t I get pregnant?”

“Why can’t I get pregnant?” is a question that plagues the minds of millions and millions of women a year.  After watching multiple friends and practice members suffer I realized that I needed to write this blog to both educate and give hope.  It is not diseases that are incurable but rather people who are incurable. More so than not women are being told that they “can’t” get pregnant without the help of intervention rather than being told why they are not getting pregnant. Barring significant medical conditions women are meant to be pregnant and by fine-tuning their lifestyle, pregnancy is just around the corner.

It is important to understand that the human body is vitalistic in nature, so it’s function cannot be explained by the laws of physics and chemistry alone.  Many times because the human body functions as a machine, we view it as mechanistic.  But that is not the case because mechanistic function can be explained.  If the human body were mechanistic then each and every time medicine would be a success and that is not the case. In my friend’s case, if the body were mechanistic, the injections and IVF would have worked.

So, “Why are you not pregnant?” The answer is simple, at this time your body is not prepared to carry a child.  The human body is controlled by innate intelligence, which governs the body and keeps the body in homeostasis. I go by the motto, “Your innate always knows.” While that can be a hard one to swallow, you are not in the desert with no water, but rather at an oasis where you can receive the knowledge necessary to boost your innate function and allow your body to function at any even more optimal level.

It is important to understand that at birth we have 100% innate function. We always have 100% innate function and while the percentage of function does not change, its expression does.  Innate expression is altered by stressors; chemical, physical, and emotional. This causes subluxations in the human body, creating interference in the human body therefore disrupting homeostasis.  Infertility is one of the many “symptoms” or dis-eases within the human body.  Dis-ease is the result of altered innate expression and over time leads to disease. In order to alter the expression of innate you must remove the stressors, which are causing the dis-ease.

Now that we know “Why you aren’t pregnant?” let’s work on what it will take to get your body where it needs to be to get pregnant.  First, you need to find a chiropractor to assess your nervous system function by locating subluxations within your spine that are causing dis-ease. He or she will then make spinal adjustments, which will ignite your innate expression. Remember, your chiropractor just performs the adjustment and the innate takes over.  As a chiropractor I never question innate. As for other stressors you will have to start to do what it takes to maintain balanced function…chemically, physically, and emotionally.  Physically, besides getting adjusted, you will need to maintain some form of an exercise routine and stay active. Emotionally, you will need to decrease your stress and stay in a positive mind set regardless of how frustrated and beaten down you feel. Chemically you will need to make sure you are eating the proper foods, drinking appropriate amounts of alkalized water, consuming proper nutrients and minerals, and realizing that pharmaceutical drugs are a stressor to your body.

I have had many frustrated women walk into my office feeling broken, frustrated, and alone…and together with the aforementioned plan; I am now adjusting their babies! Your body always knows.  Remember, it’s not that you can’t get pregnant but rather that the time is not right for you to be pregnant.

If you are looking for a doctor of chiropractic in your area email me at

Love. Laugh.  Adjust.

Dr. Martha Nessler, Innate Girl


Replacing Anchors With Roots Catapults Growth

Replacing Anchors With Roots Catapults Growth

Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

Monday, August 15, 2011

Change is hard, period, and sometimes change is really, really hard. Changes means growth, and even though growth is good; growth hurts because it stretches you out of your comfort zone and usually means you have to let go. Whether you are letting go of a past story, relationship, friendship, memory, outcome to a scenario, someone, or something, it’s not easy. It’s hard when you realize that you have come to a point in your life where you have grown up and are in turn are growing on. More so than not we anchor ourselves in the past or present and in turn inhibit and resist growth. When we come to the realization that a situation, someone, or something has become an anchor, which is holding us back, the time comes to make a cognitive and emotional switch, where the anchor is released and replaced with a root, which will allow growth.

There is a big difference between anchors and roots. Anchors are meant to connect a vessel to the floor of a body of water to prevent it from drifting. In our lives anchors do the same thing keeping us from drifting therefore keeping us idle. In an idle state we are unable to grow because movement is life. Much like an anchor is an integral part of a vessel, so is a root connecting a plant it to its soil bed and providing nutrients, food, and water. The root is a plant’s strength in storms with through tumultuous winds and serves as a preventative mechanism against erosion; a strong root allows for growth, provides support, and helps sustain life. Therefore an anchor hinders growth by mechanistically tying us down and a root is a vitalistic connection allowing evolution from past and present to future.

Inevitably the time comes when you have to decide if you are ready to catapult into the future and evolve into an even better version of yourself or if remaining in your present sate, which no longer serves you is a better option because it is safe and feels good? It boils down to the ever-present battle of feeling versus function. There is a huge difference between feeling and function. Feeling comes from the emotion that is tied to a set of circumstances, an individual, or something. Often a feeling will hold us back and keep us from functioning at an optimal level. These feelings vary in degree and can be any emotion on the spectrum from happy, sad, love, anger, fear, numb or another. Whether positive or negative it is necessary to assess whether or not the circumstances or individual that is causing the emotion is also allowing optimal function. When a situation impairs our function it is time to replace the anchor with a root and let growth occur; as you catapult into your next evolution the root gives you the sense of security necessary to persevere in faith, leaving behind your past and present and soaring into the future. Knowing that although unknown, what’s next is a necessary progression.

Only you can decide when the time is right to allow a necessary shift to occur by releasing the anchor and replacing it with a root. The root then becomes a reminder of where you have been, holds the memories that warm your heart and feeds your soul, and supports your continual growth. The release of the anchor instantly catapults you and “where you are” is now a “where you were”. Enjoy the journey and remember everything is a stepping-stone, until it becomes a stopping point, which in hindsight was always a stepping-stone.

Love. Laugh. Adjust.

Dr. Martha Nessler, innate Girl

June 21, 2010 Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

June 21, 2010

According to the Law of relativity you always determine how you feel. Everything is initially nothing but simply “just is” until you show up and give it meaning.  Then you decide. So, decide…what will you obtain from each situation? Remember your personality determines your personal reality!

Love. Laugh.  Adjust.

Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

February 22, 2010 Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

Life is about lessons…each day we learn and we grow.  We are taught to embrace and enjoy the “peaks” but often aren’t reminded the importance of the “valleys”. It is in the valleys that we truly grow.  It’s where we learn our strengths and our stretched outside our comfort zones.  Embrace both. If you aren’t growing you are dying.

Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

Love. Laugh. Adjust.

January 18, 2010 Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

January 18, 2010

How is your VISION? Can you see clearly exactly what you want? Can you articulate it? Don’t be nearsighted…be able to see the future clearly!  Create a crystal clear vision and watch it unfold.

Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

Love. Laugh. Adjust.

January 11, 2010 Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

January 11, 2010

Our thoughts create our reality…a positive mindset is imperative.  Developing a positive mindset is a powerful life strategy, which allows us to achieve whatever we desire.  What is your self-talk like? Is it positive? Is it encouraging? After all you are your own #1 fan…cheer yourself on! Daily positive affirmations and positive thinking will allow you to develop the positive attitude necessary to strengthen your inner power! Speak to yourself as though it is and watch it manifest! Be limitless!

Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

Love. Laugh. Adjust.