What The ‘Birds and the Bees’ Have To Do With You and Chiropractic

Innate Ideas by Innate Girl

Tuesday, August 30, 2011

“What The ‘Birds and the Bees’ Have To Do With You and Chiropractic”

New things are scary; frankly, anytime you venture into the unknown it is scary.  The first day of school was scary, I will never forget my dad dropping me off at Good Shepard Lutheran church and waving good-bye through tear-streamed eyes.  Each day got easier, especially as I made new friends. Changing schools in fifth grade was also very scary.  As I said good-bye to my best friend, Julie, I was scared I wouldn’t find new friends and was sure that the friendship Julie and I shared was over forever.  The truth is I made new friends and while Julie and I were distant we are still friends to this day and as we have aged our friendship is strengthening.  As individuals we have all had various scary, nerve wrecking times in our life; that at the time were scary but as we acclimated we came to realize that they were more so unknown, rather than scary.  But, one thing almost every person can relate to is sex, so let’s go back to fourth/fifth grade for a minute.

I will never forget the day my teacher sent home the permission slip so that I could learn all about female reproduction.  My dad let me know that I was going to be learning all about how my body worked.  I remember thinking, “Why is he acting so weird?” As I turned in my permission slip my teacher got all excited and with a smile said, “We are going to have so much fun learning about being a woman!” Once again I was confused as to all the hype.

The next week, we were separated into two rooms.  All the fourth grade boys in one and all the girls in the other.  We had never really been separated before, except to go to the bathroom.  I remember the anticipation in the room, this must be a big deal, being that we were separated and had to have permission slips.  As they dimmed the lights and started the movie, which was titled along the lines of “Becoming a Woman”, a silence fell over the room.  As we exited the room in shear shock, I know we all were thinking the same thing, “there is NO WAY. I will ever do that with a boy”.

We were immediately set free on the playground where we were rejoined with the boys.  We were specifically told not to discuss it with the boys and believe me there was no way either sex was sharing ANY information! There is no way any of us were doing anything that we were just explained, let alone talk about it! I know at least for my close friends, and me we stuck with the motto out of site out of mind!

If you think back to that day, when you first learned about sex, it was really scary.  First, remember, that just a year before if not still, the opposite sex had cooties.  They were good for one thing and one thing only, chasing and picking on! Just the thought of kissing a boy or a girl was gross let alone becoming more physical.  And how on earth could “sex” be enjoyable? It just didn’t make sense and it was really scary.  And not only was there possible pain associated with it but there were tons of rumors of the possible consequences; STDs, AIDS, pregnancy, addiction, and the list goes on. Who in the world with have sex?

Warp speed ahead about seven to ten years, suddenly the same guy or girl who had cooties was a total hottie.  There was something different about them, about the way you looked at them and the way they looked at you.  Suddenly, you wanted to spend more time with them and the urge to hold hands and steal a kiss was an everyday occurrence, if not hourly! Soon kissing was not enough and suddenly the unthinkable happened, together you had the talk.  While in fourth or fifth grade sex was scary it was now the only way to really share love and passion with that person, it was the next step in the evolution of your relationship.  The fear of sex was now a thing of the past, being replaced by the joy of sex!

While some people have only had sex with their spouse and to this day only desire their spouse, there are some who have had more than one sexual partner; some better and some worse.  There are even some people who claim they have had terrible sex with a certain partner, whether it lacked chemistry or skill, there was just something that was not right.  But, to this day those people are not celibate and are actually in relationships where they have really passionate sex with the person they love. One less than perfect sexual experience was simply chalked up as a lesson learned and after healing from the relationship they moved on to find love and to share it.

Sex is a lot like chiropractic for some people, it is unknown and possibly a bit scary.  Maybe they have heard stories or rumors or are just a little unsure about what’s going to happen.  Possibly they had a chiropractor that didn’t explain things or they just didn’t click with their first chiropractor.  But, just like sex when you understand chiropractic you understand why people get adjusted! I urge you to find a chiropractor that will explain chiropractic and will help you understand the importance of having your nervous system assessed.  Anything new is scary or can make you unsure, but with the right knowledge and chiropractor it is easy to understand why so many people “get checked” by their chiropractor weekly! Just like sex, chiropractic is worth exploring.

If you need help finding a chiropractor like me, email me at and I will help you locate a chiropractor in your area!

Love. Laugh. Adjust.

Dr. Martha Nessler, Innate Girl


Innate Ideas #2 – Spizz It Up!

October 18, 2010

Spizzerinctum is the energy of the business.  We know the definition of this word that we as chiropractors hold dear to our hearts from our founding father, but do we live it? Does our practice reflect the principle of spizzerinctum?

I always remind my staff that the “E” in event is for ENERGY.  With the proper energy it’s impossible to not have a successful event and with a successful event it’s inevitable you will have an elevation of energy.  So, what does your event calendar look like? In my last Innate Idea I stressed the importance of having your marketing calendar ready in October of the current year for the next year and it’s crucial to have well planned, energy driven events planned both in and out of the office.

There are two categories of events in office (internal) and out of office (external). The events can vary in cost, theme, purpose, number in attendance, and target audience.  It’s crucial to outline the event in detail and clarify exactly the goals of each individual event.  In my office we try to have one internal event and one external event each month, atleast.

A few examples of internal events are “fun” and simple holidays, holiday celebrations, Women’s Indulgence Nights, Man’s Hang Out Nights, and so much more.  It’s easy to get a list of “fun” holidays off the internet.  “Yo-Yo Day” is a great day to give out a tiny Yo-Yo and remind practice members to not Yo-Yo their health care.  “National Hug Day” is a great way to educate on the importance of hugs; on this day we wear shirts from which read “I Hug Back”.  There are hundreds of fun and simple holidays.  Holidays in general are a great way to bring people together and tying in chiropractic makes it all the more a success.  Women’s Indulgence Nights and Man’s Hang Out Nights allow your practice members to address their respective needs and socialize with other like minded people.

For external events the list in endless; talks and lectures, Wine Nights, Screenings, Health Fairs, Patient Appreciation Dinners, Community Wellness Days, and so much more.  If you set out the intention that you want talks and lectures and simply ask practice members and friends your calendar will fill up quickly.  Wine nights are a great way to gather practice members and their friends in a welcoming setting where you can share wine and engage with each other.  Screening and health fairs are a great way to get patients who are out seeking your service.  Saying, “Thank You” is fun and easy with a Patient Appreciation Dinner.  It’s a great way to say thank you to those you serve and introduce yourself to their friend and loved ones.  Community Wellness Days are becoming more and more popular and allow you to reach out to your entire community and educate on the importance of chiropractic.

Whether internal or external the objective is the same, to create energy within your office.  Remember what you put in you get out and the more energy the more results.  Regardless of the event, it is important that you create energy!! Go ahead get Spizzin’!

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Love. Laugh. Adjust.

Innate Girl