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Why are you so Triggered?

Next time you catch yourself judging someone for how they show up, take a minute and ask yourself why what they are doing is triggering you?

Are you triggered because it’s something they need to change or it something you need to be more aware about in yourself?

Quite often what triggers us about another person has nothing to do with that person but it’s what we need to address in ourselves!

The truth is who someone else or how they show up, should not affect you and if it does, you need to get clear on why.

Take a moment and get clear…

Do you realize what triggers you about the other person says more about you than them? If so be grateful to them for mirroring your S#!T to you and sort yourself out.

Or

Do you realize that person is not your cup a tea and you move on? The truth is you won’t be everyone’s cup of tea either.

We can learn so much about ourselves when we stop judging others and start learning about ourselves.

💋 DRM

Turn Down the Volume on the Noise

Sometimes you have to turn the volume down on the noise, just to hear your own thoughts.

Are you worrying about what everyone else is doing, thinking and saying or are you worried about what you think, say and do? 

There is so much noise, especially with the rise in popularity of social media that it is easy to get wrapped up in what everyone else is saying, thinking and doing that YOU can no longer here the desires of your own heart.  

I get it, I use to struggle too with what other people were doing, what they thought and what they said, that I lost site of what mattered to me and quieted my inner wisdom. 

I can remember one day, very specifically, when this guy Troy told me I was “intense”, I really took it to heart and for some time following that conversation, I tried to dim myself down to appear less intense. 

Why did I care what he thought? 

Because, he was successful (or atleast, at that time, what I viewed as successful), I equated his success to having a pulse on what was needed to become successful and at that time I gave the word intense a negative connotation, therefore seeing my intensity as something I should change.  

But, the more I tried to change WHO I WAS, which is extremely powerful and driven, which can be viewed as intense to some people, the more I felt a little bit of me die, the more “strange” I felt being me.  

And then one day, I had a powerful conversation with myself (yes, I talk to myself, trust me its healthy, try it) and came to the conclusion that maybe I am intense (too some people), but it’s that intensity that drives me to love more, give more, serve more, be more, do more, etc.. and I came to the realization that I am more than OK with being intense and chose that day to embrace my perceived intensity.

And that is JUST ONE time that I have allowed someone else’s voice, opinion, thoughts or beliefs to be heard over my own, where I gave another person’s thoughts value over mine, but each time it just felt YUCK trying to be someone else.  

And every time I have ever allowed the noise to rise above my own thoughts, I have QUICKLY come to the realization that what I think matters more and the minute I silence the noise, I suddenly feel life in my veins again. 

Let this story be your reminder that YOU get to choose how you show up and who’s voice you hear the loudest.  

So where is YOUR voice in this noisy world? 

Can you hear it or is it being drowned out by all the noise from everyone else around YOU? 

It’s very easy, if you don’t stay focused on what matters to YOU, to allow the noise around you to drowned out the most important opinion and thought…YOUR own.  

The greatest lesson for me and the greatest gift I have given myself is to be OK being me, can you give yourself that same grace? 

Someone, somewhere will always have something to say about you, but that doesn’t mean their voice has to be the loudest, as a matter of fact it will only be as loud as you allow it.  

This is your gentle reminder to turn the volume down on what doesn’t serve you! 

DRM xx