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Is it possible to regret what you have done, yet not regret who you are?

Is it possible to regret what you have done, yet not regret who you are?

Or by regretting what you have done are you regretting who you have become?

It is inevitable that throughout life, most, if not all, individuals will have one experience or more that leaves them asking internal questions such as, “What was I thinking?” or “Why did I do that?” or “I can’t believe I thought that was a good idea!”

The interesting paradox in life is all that we have done in the past creates who we are today in the present, yet so many people live in regret over what has happened in the past.

I have definitely had my share of experiences that were unpleasant and at the time I felt extreme sadness or regret in regards to the event, but there is a difference between experiencing regret and allowing regret to minimize your experience.

There was a time when I didn’t understand that both what had happened to me and that I had done, positive or negative, depending on how I perceived it; molded who I was today.

Once I was able to understand that every event I had experienced, whether I was actively or inactively involved, had a direct influence and contributed to my existence and my self-evolution.photo

By realizing each event plays an integral role in one’s journey, allows gratitude for all experiences, regardless of perception, because each event plays an integral role in one’s evolution as a human being.  It is imperative that individual’s acknowledge where they have been and what they have done reveal who an individual is today.

Exhausted from living in regret? You are not alone.

You are simple shift in perspective away from setting yourself free and releasing the weight of sadness that only anchors us to perceived negative experiences, freeing yourself to fully live.

Shift your perspective and watch your existence elevate with these easy steps:

Change the meaning of the event for YOU.

It is important to understand that YOU give meaning to all your experiences; they are not negative or positive until you decide their meaning in regards to your perception of the experience. YOU and you alone decide whether an experience is positive or negative.

It’s okay if your perception varies from others involved in the same situation.

It is possible that two people can have the same event happen at the same time, same place, same environment, and have a different perceived outcome.

Live in gratitude for all your experiences, while you were creating them they were simultaneously creating you – molding you.

Simply shift your perceived outcome of the event(s) from negative to positive – how can something that has contributed to your existence be negative?

Every event that has happened to you over the course of time has contributed to the individual you are today, without all that YOU have been through YOU would not be you!

Replace regret with content, “I am content with what has happened”, relish in the knowing that all events have propelled you to your current position in life – embrace gratitude.

Don’t let past experiences paralyze you, free yourself of regret and allow them to propel you.

It is common that individuals allow events to paralyze them, rather than embracing the experience and allowing it to propel them and enhance their human expression and existence.

There is a misconception that only the positive experiences in life propel us and mold us, shockingly, if it is allowed the negative experiences often have the greatest ability to enhance human existence.

Shift your perspective – shift your life!

When force is applied to matter it either molds it or breaks it, the same is true of each and every event in your life, they will mold you or break you – be putty in God’s hand and allow Him to mold you!

Enhancing Life Expression,

Dr. Martha Nessler@drmarthanessler

www.drmarthanessler.com

Stop Telling Stories and Start Living Your Life

People love to tell stories.   The love of story telling begins as a child, sitting on a parent or grandparents lap listening as they take you to a world outside the one in which you currently reside! The more creative, imaginative, and emotional the storyteller, the better the story, the more real the story becomes. It’s interesting how we carry certain things through our lives, such as telling stories.   The only difference is as we age rather than being told a story we tell ourselves a story and the more creative, imaginative, and emotional we are about “our story” the more real it becomes.

Your thoughts create your reality therefore what you think about you bring about.  Stop and think for a second exactly what you are thinking about.  When you evaluate your thoughts you may realize why you are not living the life of your dreams.  You also may see exactly why you are creating the exact set of circumstances you are so eager to be free from.  Your external is a mirror image of your internal; if you don’t like what you in the exterior world you live in, some internal housekeeping is necessary.

We are at a point in time where the majority of people in society are not happy and while some are seeking change and growth and working towards creating the life of their dreams, many have no idea where to begin.  Whether you are just now starting to make a shift in your perspective to turn your frown upside down and your world around or you are an individual seeking higher awareness it is important to assess the stories you tell yourself.  You and only you can make the necessary shift to stop telling your story and start living out your dream!

This past year I have been coaching people, traveling their journey with them, as they begin to create the life of their dreams and letting go of the stories that enslave them.   I have learned so much about each individual, myself, and about the ability of an individual to tell a story about him or herself or an event so much that it becomes the reality in which they live.  Events, those we perceive as positive and negative are inevitable, attaching to and living in the confines of those events is a choice.

We always get to choose and we always get to live with the result of that choice.  Every action has a reaction, which usually depicts our next action.  Life becomes an accumulation of an individuals actions and reactions.  Life can be and should be utter bliss and beginning to LIVE the life of your dreams takes one small action, simply letting go of the story that imprisons you, your perceived reality.   A small action that shuts the door to the story you are telling and opens the door to the future you begin creating.

Sit down and get clear on what is your reality and what is your perceived reality.  You may be surprised at the stories you are telling yourself, dwelling in, and keeping you from really living.  Love yourself enough to let go of your story and begin living the life of your dreams.  Only you can create your reality, create one that is worth living in!

I have developed a protocol to assist in letting go of your story by falling in love with yourself.  The majority of Americans are not in love with who they are at an innate level.  I was there at one point, so I know.  If you nee help with this process please let me know by contacting me at drm@drmarthanessler.com .  Know that you are not alone, unless you choose to be.   Allow yourself to let go and begin to love yourself again or for the first time!

Love. Laugh. Adjust.

Dr. Martha Nessler, Innate Girl       drm@drmarthanessler.com

www.drmarthanessler.com

www.innateexpressions.com

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