Is it possible to regret what you have done, yet not regret who you are?
Or by regretting what you have done are you regretting who you have become?
It is inevitable that throughout life, most, if not all, individuals will have one experience or more that leaves them asking internal questions such as, “What was I thinking?” or “Why did I do that?” or “I can’t believe I thought that was a good idea!”
The interesting paradox in life is all that we have done in the past creates who we are today in the present, yet so many people live in regret over what has happened in the past.
I have definitely had my share of experiences that were unpleasant and at the time I felt extreme sadness or regret in regards to the event, but there is a difference between experiencing regret and allowing regret to minimize your experience.
There was a time when I didn’t understand that both what had happened to me and that I had done, positive or negative, depending on how I perceived it; molded who I was today.
Once I was able to understand that every event I had experienced, whether I was actively or inactively involved, had a direct influence and contributed to my existence and my self-evolution.
By realizing each event plays an integral role in one’s journey, allows gratitude for all experiences, regardless of perception, because each event plays an integral role in one’s evolution as a human being. It is imperative that individual’s acknowledge where they have been and what they have done reveal who an individual is today.
Exhausted from living in regret? You are not alone.
You are simple shift in perspective away from setting yourself free and releasing the weight of sadness that only anchors us to perceived negative experiences, freeing yourself to fully live.
Shift your perspective and watch your existence elevate with these easy steps:
Change the meaning of the event for YOU.
It is important to understand that YOU give meaning to all your experiences; they are not negative or positive until you decide their meaning in regards to your perception of the experience. YOU and you alone decide whether an experience is positive or negative.
It’s okay if your perception varies from others involved in the same situation.
It is possible that two people can have the same event happen at the same time, same place, same environment, and have a different perceived outcome.
Live in gratitude for all your experiences, while you were creating them they were simultaneously creating you – molding you.
Simply shift your perceived outcome of the event(s) from negative to positive – how can something that has contributed to your existence be negative?
Every event that has happened to you over the course of time has contributed to the individual you are today, without all that YOU have been through YOU would not be you!
Replace regret with content, “I am content with what has happened”, relish in the knowing that all events have propelled you to your current position in life – embrace gratitude.
Don’t let past experiences paralyze you, free yourself of regret and allow them to propel you.
It is common that individuals allow events to paralyze them, rather than embracing the experience and allowing it to propel them and enhance their human expression and existence.
There is a misconception that only the positive experiences in life propel us and mold us, shockingly, if it is allowed the negative experiences often have the greatest ability to enhance human existence.
Shift your perspective – shift your life!
When force is applied to matter it either molds it or breaks it, the same is true of each and every event in your life, they will mold you or break you – be putty in God’s hand and allow Him to mold you!
Enhancing Life Expression,
Dr. Martha Nessler@drmarthanessler