Have Yu Checked Your “Love Reserves”?
When was the last time you looked in the mirror and truthfully and thoughtfully told yourself, “I love you?” Do you do it daily? If so, Congrats! Never done it before? Start today! In order to truly and fully love others; you must first love yourself.
“I love you” is a common phrase which shows adoration. It’s used when we deeply care for someone and know deep within our soul that we are better having known them. When we want what is best for that person always above all els. When we are present for them regardless of barriers that is when we can be certain that we love them. Loving someone is represented in different states, attitudes, and feelings. Love it’s a virtue that represents having human kindness, compassion, and affection. It is the deepest emotion an individual can express. Loving others comes easy for some and more difficult for others depending on the individual. Remember love is the highest vibration on earth and once you’re struck; you’re stuck:)
But when it comes to loving yourself is when it gets tough. It’s easy to love someone else whether it happens right away or gradually grows. When it comes to loving ones self is when things become a little more difficult!
Someone whom I love and admire in this world with all my heart, challenged me to fall in love with myself to change my life. I was at a point in my life when I really thought the world was against me…and that NOTHING was going to go my way. I was doing all I could to stay above ground. I was turning my wheels and getting no where. Truthfully, I thought I was doing everything right…exactly “I thought”.
Rather than truly loving myself I was neglecting myself and finding what I believed to be more fulfillment in full out loving others. While the love I was giving others was real and genuine it was becoming exhausting; depleting my “love reserves”. You may ask how can giving love drain your reserves? It’s easy when you are giving love to everyone but yourself. Let me explain…
The love one is able to give themselves is a pure love that is innocent and genuine. A love that has no limitations or restrictions. It’s an innate love that is abundant. So, if this love is so great why are we so stingy with it when it comes to filling our own hearts with it and unconditionally loving ourselves?
Just like anything we learn in life we are taught by those in our immediate environment, our MFTP (mothers, fathers, teachers, and preachers). We learn from our key influences. Over time life lessons get diluted or important lessons get left out. It’s imperative that regardless of age we re-implement these principles or for the first time learn them. Not only for ourselves but for the generations which we impact. Let’s focus now, on learning the importance of loving yourself and why we so often neglect this ever so important part of our lives.
When it comes to showing up big for loved ones both friends and family we often do whatever it takes to make sure they know much they are loved. We make sure and let them know though words, thoughts, and gift giving, making sure that they know how much they mean to us. We give them clarity in knowing we are their number one fan, regardless.
Whether or not we want to admit it at times, we give so much to others that at times it becomes draining. This is not insinuating that we should stop loving others so much but rather we should we do a self assessment. Wondering how to do so? It’s simple. Let me explain.
It’s imperative that we take time to check our “love reserves”. This is the amount of love you have available inside of you to utilize for yourself and others. Loving yourself? Shocked? I was…isn’t it vain, to love yourself? I’m not talking ego or boast; I am talking pure unadulterated love for yourself. Having agape love; divine, unconditional, self-sacrificing, active, volitional, and thoughtful love for yourself. Love that allows you to become your own number one fan. Believing in yourself, taking time for yourself, talking positively to yourself, and utilizing other ways of just plain loving yourself. Remembering that love comes from you and not to you, loving yourself is a crucial aspect of life. And when you finally get to the point where you are passionately in love with yourself you will realize the multiplication of your love for others. You will then see that as your internal love overflows it subsequently flows into your love for others. Yes, loving yourself more will allow you to in turn give out more love.
Where does one start? Do what I did, start with this simple task, look in the mirror and say “I love you”. It may seem easy but personally I struggled. Much like anything it will be easy for some and hard for others. For me it took awhile but when I was finally able to look myself directly in my own eyes and with complete adoration say, “I love you” and mean it was the last time I ever felt like my love reserves were running dry. That was a pivotal point in my life where I know my life was forever altered and my love for others was never so true and so deep.
For me it’s a daily thing that may seem trivial to some but I want to always know that I am giving genuine, bountiful love to all those who I come in contact especially my dearest friends and family because first and foremost, I love myself.
Monday August 23, 2010
Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational
Love. Laugh. Adjust.