The Power of Simply Saying, “WHAT?”

“What?” in the world is going on with the people in the world? More and more I find the word “WHAT?” rolling off my tongue in utter shock in response to most things I hear these days! Sometimes, I feel like my grandma when I catch myself wondering what is happening in the world and with the people the world. We have gotten so far the root our creation, rather than trusting in God and His perfect design of the human body society has placed faith in man for fear that innate merely does not exist or in fact is not capable of maintaining our existence.  It is this shift in perspective of the percentage of humans that makes me say, think, and wonder “WHAT?”

In my opinion we don’t emphatically ask “WHAT?” enough. “WHAT?” in terms of “What are you talking about?” or “What does that mean?” or “What in the world?” And I don’t mean a weak “WHAT?” but a powerful, concerned, confused, “WHAT?” A “WHAT?” that makes the receiver of the “WHAT?” stop and think about the words that just formulated in their mind and rolled off their tongue. In my opinion, “WHAT?” is one of the most under used and powerful words that can be used to give H.O.P.E. (Helping Open People’s Eyes) and to wake people up! But, you have to say it like you are utterly confused and dumbfounded, come from a loving place, and say it with concern as to shake the current belief system of the average person on the planet earth.

My existence is very interesting, I live in the world but I don’t live with the world.  I see the world very different than the other 99.9% of its inhabitants.  Truthfully, if I didn’t have a copy of my birth certificate and the same forehead as my dad I would honestly entertain the idea that I may in fact be an alien from another planet. I have also entertained the idea that I am living in a movie similar to The Truman Show starring Jim Carey and that I am in fact in a “pretend” world where EVERYONE else is an actor/actress and the world salivates daily to watch my reaction to the nonsense I encounter, just to capture my reaction.  I’m fairly positive that neither is the case and if you know the truth please keep it to yourself and let me find out in due time, there is no rush.

It is the mindset of the majority of the people that I share this planet with that has me concerned and I find strength when I meet someone who is either from my planet or rather than sleeping they are awake.  Unlike most people I don’t believe that sick and dying is the way life was intended, that the body can not heal itself and needs the help of outside sources, that we are merely here to exist, that we have no control, and that anything I am told must be true.  Rather, I believe that sick and dying is an option, the body was designed to heal itself and simply needs no interference, I believe we all have a purpose, that we can control our own reality, and that most of what I hear from others is self-serving rather than true. While some may call me an optimist and others may claim I am crazy, there are those whose belief system is in line with mine and not only understand each other but our innates resonate at a cellular level.  Sadly, there are more that see my way of thought as “crazy” or “optimistic”; whatever the case I thoroughly enjoy the paradigm I have chosen to live in.

If I were to list out every single statement that I have heard within the last month that made me say, “WHAT?” there is a possibility that this blog would be in the running for the Guinness Book of Records for the World’s Longest blog.  I’ll list a few of my favorite words utter by others that have resulted in a “WHAT?” such as “I just got done with chemotherapy, I am healthy!” or “I’d rather be fat and sick than eat vegetables!” or “The prescription I am on made me healthy!” to all these statements I shockingly replied, “WHAT?” These are just a few of the many fallacies that society holds close to their heart and blindly follows it as concrete evidence that man is wiser than God.

In my opinion, the word “WHAT?” is a perfect wake up call, a siren if you will alerting the person with whom you are speaking to that the words they just utter shocked you and that you need explanation to understand.  It is at this time that they re-think their statement and can re-articulate if needed and or repeat the same statement.  You are now in the perfect position to ask questions regarding their “WHAT?” statement such as “Why do you believe that?” or “Who told you that?” or “Does that make to sense to you?” or “What does that mean?” These questions allow the individual to use the Socratic method to derive the necessary info to continue with their current belief or to make a necessary paradigm shift to enhance their life.

Start using “WHAT?”  Wake people up to the truth! Make them realize what they are saying is crazy! Wake them up to the truth…you owe it to them!

Dr. Martha Nessler, Innate Girl

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Do You Really Love Yourself? Set a Love Standard!

What’s Your Love Standard?

I remember the first time someone asked me if “I loved myself”.  Upon hearing it I immediately thought “Of course! What an odd question?”  But, after more thought and some internal reflection, I realized I wasn’t quite sure.  I began to ponder this question and really begin to understand what “loving myself” truly meant.  Today I can say that I love myself 100% and before truly understand the true meaning of “loving myself”, I truly only liked myself.

I want to clarify that loving oneself is not an egotistical I am “god” or I am “better” than view but a pure unadulterated and unconditional love that says I love myself despite and because.  Most people are cognitively aware of how to love another and that love must come with forgiveness, acceptance, and free of judgment; allowing love that is sincere, pure, abundant, and respectful. But, when it comes to loving ourselves we love with scrutiny and love others first before we love others, by doing this we are not only cutting ourselves short but are actually cutting the one’s we love short of fully loving them. It is a common misconception that you can love another more than you love yourself, you must love yourself first and foremost before you can fully love another.

It is imperative to set a “love standard” for yourself.  A standard that sets the tone for how much other’s should love you because it is how much you love yourself. To truly love yourself you must have genuine self-acceptance, limitless self-forgiveness, and a positive self-image.   In order to love yourself with the same sincerity, purity, abundance, and respect you love another you must first do this for yourself.

As creatures of habit and having learned from our mothers, fathers, teachers, and preachers we have and learned and constantly put loving others first and loving ourselves second and sometimes third or fourth.  The irony is that we seek from others the love we should be giving ourselves.  We want those we love to forgive us, to accept us, and to give us the positive feedback on image that we should be giving ourselves.  Repeatedly this behavior leaves us disappointed because we seek from another source when we must receive it from our internal source.  The instant you start loving yourself, you will see that others start giving you more love and it is more of the love you want to receive.

The law of giving and receiving is well known in the arena of loving another; giving others love to receive love.  But in the when it comes to loving ourselves we don’t love ourselves and that is why we never receive in full the love we want.  The minute you begin to make the conscious effort to love yourself you want others to love you and with the same standards that you love others you will truly begin to give and receive love in abundance, agape love; this is a love standard.  A love standard says: “This is how much I love myself, how much I will love you, and how much I want to be love.  Establishing this love standard will allow you to maximize the law of giving and receiving.  What’s your love standard? Are you cutting yourself and those you love short?

Love. Laugh Adjust.

Dr. Martha Nessler                                     drm@drmarthanessler.com

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The Road Less Traveled vs. The Societal Highway

The Road Less Traveled vs. The Societal Highway

Going against the grain is an exhausting concept.  The concept of going against the flow of society is exhausting and lonely when you really think about it.   The decision to do something different is scary enough, without having to think that you will be alone and exhausted in doing so.  The simple concept of “going against the grain” makes many weary of change.  What if you weren’t going against the grain but rather taking the road less traveled? And you knew others had traveled it and been successful but it just wasn’t the most traveled; it wasn’t the societal norm?

Robert Frost said, “Two roads diverged in the woods and I took the one less traveled and that has made all the difference.” This simple quote is how I have decided to view my decisions for me in terms of health, wealth, goals, and choices. About ten years ago I began to really assess what path I wanted for my life. Doing the same things over and over gets us the same results over and over and knowing this to be true I wasn’t sure I liked the results I saw people getting.

As I began to look at society as a whole, I saw poverty, sickness, sadness, low vibration, and many more things that didn’t have the appeal that made me scream, “I want that”.  Knowing that God wanted me to be abundant in all things: health, wealth, thought, happiness, vibration, in any and everything, I knew that the average American was missing something and many were missing a lot of something that I wanted and was created to have.  The realization came that I was going to have to do something different to get different results.

In researching what I wanted for my life I realized that I there were others who had what I wanted, they were out there, they were just fewer in numbers.  Many would say I go against the grain in the terms of health, wealth, thought, goals, and choices; I see it as taking the road less traveled.   There is a combination of senses that comes with the realization that you are traveling a road less traveled, a sense of security and a sense of adventure.

By societal standards I am considered weird because I make choices that vary from the norm, that sway from the road less traveled.  I like to think I simply woke up and liked the feeling of being eyes wide open awake.  It’s really easy to get “sleepy” when you monotonously do the same actions that everyone else does.  When a large amount of people are doing the same thing it creates a force that almost pulls you along and pushes you without having to exert as much will power.  You simply go through the movements.  But when you get a wake up call and acknowledge it you, you realize that rather than living your life you are living the same life as everyone else.  Where is the adventure in that?

We all get several wake up calls throughout life, in relationships, health, wealth, etc. and just like anything it all depends on how we address that wake up call.  Nothing in life has meaning until we give it meaning.  My series of wake up calls led me to ask myself whether or not I was happy where my journey was taking me. Which led me to decide that the road less traveled was unknown but more appealing and has proven its self to be more of a scenic route.  I like to view it as traveling the back roads while the majority is taking the highway.  There is no right or wrong choice as long as you know where the highway is taking you and you approve of the destination.  There is something serene about enjoying the ride you are on as opposed to hanging on for dear life!

Love. Laugh. Adjust.

Dr. Martha Nessler                                                             drm@drmarthanessler.com

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Fortunate Strokes of Serendipity

Fortunate Strokes of Serendipity

One of my favorite movies of all time is the movie Serendipity. In the movie the two lead actors meet in a department store at Christmas. They are both last minute shopping for gifts and attempt to buy the same “last pair” of black gloves.  Their debate between the gloves leads them to coffee, which leads them to instant infatuation with each other.  The problem is they are both in committed relationship, which both are secretly unhappy with and the question of “what if?’ looms in both their minds.  The lead actress encourages the actor to “trust” saying that “what will be will be” because if in fact their meeting is “serendipitous” then it is in fact “inevitable”. Through a chain of serendipitous events the two end up together because they trust and remain “present”.

After watching the movie serendipity, which was well over ten years ago, I looked up the word serendipity, which means an occurrence and development of events by chance in a happy or beneficial way.  After reading the word a few times over allowing it to sink in, I decided that day that I wanted a lot more serendipity in my life.  To me there was something beautiful and simplistic about a life that was filled with fortunate strokes of serendipity.

I can honestly say that since deciding that I wanted to attract in to my life more serendipitous events, I have done just that.  Now don’t get me wrong since then my life has not been completely serendipitous, because I am human and human nature is to force and control.  What makes an event serendipitous is that it happens by chance; therefore, serendipity cannot and will not happen with force.

In the movie the couple believes that if they serendipitously allow life to lead, then what will be will be. Such is true of fully “letting go and God” rather than pushing for what you want and forcing situations.  The act of letting go allows you to pull into your life what is truly meant to be.  I remind myself each day to “let go, sit back, let God, and enjoy the ride”. This mantra has allowed me to attract many fortunate strokes of serendipity into my life.

Love. Laugh. Adjust.

Dr. Martha Nessler

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