What if someone would have told them?

The other day I had a consult with a family who had a mother dying of cancer.  They came to me in desperation; she was in stage 4 cancer which had metastasized.  They were sent here by a practice member who knew we could help.  After consulting the husband and daughter, they were so eager to get started…they knew if nothing else she would be comfortable in her last days.

They had been through so many obstacles in the medical model.  They had felt so hopeless, so defeated.  They had been arguing with the hospital and hospice about what to feed her, how to make her comfortable, and what steps to take next.  They came to me seeking support if nothing else. They told me,  I was the first person to listen to them and not just hear them.  I saw the glimmer of hope in their eyes because someone saw how precious this woman’s life was.

I set an appointment to go to the hospital and see her the beginning of the week.  We were able to cut through the red tape that exists when someone is in hospice and we had the majority of family on board with significant education. Driving to the appointment I received a call; she had just passed the night before.   Tears immediately filled my eyes as I asked myself, “What if?” A million “What ifs?” crossed my mind.

You see where I gain my passion is from losing my mother to cancer.  She was diagnosed just 6 months after the birth of my brother; the weekend of my second birthday and passed within four months.  Now, it is important to understand that my mother was under the care of a medical doctor for 3 years while she was pregnant.  My brother and I are Irish twins born a year and a half apart, so the entire 3 years she was seen on a regular basis by a physician.  But, when she was diagnosed everyone was blind sided and in their opinion it was “too late”.  She died of a rare cancer which completely invaded her reproductive and digestive system.

For the time period my mother lived what most would consider a “healthy lifestyle”.  By that I mean she took vitamins, ate healthy, and walked regularlt.  My mother did the best with what she was taught by her MFTP (mother, father, teacher, preacher).  Yes, she could have taken all areas to a greater level but she definitely did more than most.  One avenue my mother never traveled was down the road that lead her toward the chiropractic lifestyle.  While I am not certain, I don’t believe anyone ever introduced her to chiropractic; no one ever shared their story or “the” story with her.  Don’t get me wrong their weren’t exactly screenings in the late 70’s and early 80’s (which was when she and my father began their life) so hearing the message would have had to be from a friend.  And having talked to my grandparents who now get the importance and own the story and lifestyle of chiropractic; they didn’t known or they would have done things differently when raising her.

Also, remember at that time chiropractic was being sold as “pain therapy” and not wellness.  My mother had no pain until December of 1981 and passed by April 1982.  As we know, pain is not an indicator; it’s only 10% of a nerve with 90% being autonomic and motor function (45% each).  My mother had no idea she was “subluxated”.  This is where education is so important.  People really don’t know and for years we really didn’t tell them.  We have a lot of work to do to continue to educate and also to re-educate individuals.  It is a task I feel our profession is up for and each day doing more and more to complete the task.   And each day it is our responsibility to do a little bit more to continually grow.

I can’t help but always think, “What if someone would have told her? What if she knew what I knew?” Would I have been vaccinated? Would I have been adjusted the day I was born? Would my mother be watching me live the life of my dreams?

So, receiving that call last week  I couldn’t help but think the same things, all the “What ifs?”

I am sharing this personal part of my life, the passion that drives me, to impress upon the importance of educating and empowering everyone that you meet.  I don’t tell this portion of my life as a “story”, stories don’t propel us; I am sharing my passion with you to inspire you.  What is your passion? What drives you to serve at a deeper level? I challenge you to be present time conscious and realize that everyone deserves to know, they are ignorant unless they are educated.  Then they decide.

My purpose is simple “To Ignite”.  If after reading this email, I have ignited in you something that causes you to engage more than I have fulfilled my purpose.

This like much of my life is dedicated to the spirit of my mother which lives through me and in me.

June 28, 2010 Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

June 28, 2010

You control your vision, whether it expands or stays idle.  Your vision controls your perception and your perception controls your reality.  So, in essence you control your reality.  When was your last reality check?

Love. Laugh. Adjust.

Dr. Martha Nessler

June 21, 2010 Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

June 21, 2010

According to the Law of relativity you always determine how you feel. Everything is initially nothing but simply “just is” until you show up and give it meaning.  Then you decide. So, decide…what will you obtain from each situation? Remember your personality determines your personal reality!

Love. Laugh.  Adjust.

Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

June 14, 2010 Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

It’s all about the WHY! People don’t buy what you do, they buy why you do it! What’s your why?  What drives you?  The Why is your driving motivation for action. Define it and Do it!  Next comes the how and what!

Love. Laugh. Adjust.

Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

February 22, 2010 Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

Life is about lessons…each day we learn and we grow.  We are taught to embrace and enjoy the “peaks” but often aren’t reminded the importance of the “valleys”. It is in the valleys that we truly grow.  It’s where we learn our strengths and our stretched outside our comfort zones.  Embrace both. If you aren’t growing you are dying.

Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

Love. Laugh. Adjust.

February 15, 2010 Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivation

ALWAYS come from a place of LOVE.  Remember: love is patient, kind, hopeful, selfless, faithful, and limitless AND you should be too! Remember LOVE is the highest vibration! Give love. Receive love.

Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

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February 1, 2010 Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

You have been called t be the salt of the earth and the light of the world.  Do your part and share your heart, coming from a place of love.

Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

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How You Do Anything is How You Do Everything

Yesterday when I was in the gym I learned a very valuable lesson or at least had it refreshed.  5 days a week I do Crossfit workouts at my local gym.  I have recently started doing them with three other people very regularly.  We always have a great time and healthy competition.  We have all definitely grown exponentially in both mental and physical strength over the course of our workouts.

Usually each day I am the second one done, every once and awhile I beat Jim but it’s rare! I will say that on the days I do he is more upset than I am happy (love ya, JIm)! But, today was very different.  Today the workout called for:

100 ft of walking lunges with 30 lb dumbbells

30- 30″ box jumps

30-30 lb weighted pullups (20 lbs for women)

**4 sets of all three for time **

We all knew it was going to be a hard workout so we got started! We first did our warmup of overhead squats, dips, sit ups, ghd sit ups, back extensions, and a few pullups. As Crossfit says, “Our warm up is your workout!”

The timers started and we were of with walking lunges which were difficult but definitely doable, then I was on to the box jumps which were actually a nice break from what was next.  Those CRAZY weighted pull ups.  Are you kidding me (AYKM)?? One word, WOW! Ok, so 20 lb weighted pull ups were very difficult and after 3 pull ups (yes, 3!) I moved down to 12.5 lbs. And I completed my first set.  The second and third set took forever and were so difficult. By the last set I was really contemplating losing the weight with the pull ups.  Pull ups without weight are NO problem but with weight they were unbearable.  But, I was determined! I pushed through and it took me 37:30 to finish the workout.  The longest a Crossfit work has ever taken.  And I felt awesome! Really amazing and extremely proud! Why? Let me explain.

I was the last one finished by about 10 minutes.  Which was a change and like any change it can be uncomfortable.  But I was also one of the only people to finish it full out with all weights accurate or atleast a derivative of it.  Jim completed it full out with everything down exactly and really did awesome! But the other two did less weight on the walking lunges and no weight on the pull ups, which is still acceptable and deserves a job well done.  And believe me I considered it a couple times during the almost 40 minute workout.  I kept thinking that “it would be so much easier with no weighted pull ups” but I kept thinking to myself easy isn’t always the right or best way!

During yesterday’s workout I realized that sometimes the right way isn’t always the easy way. This seems simple but it’s so true and really important.  A lot of times a few shortcuts will still get you to the end point but will you get the same end result? Let me explain.  If I would have taken the weight off for the pull ups I still would have finished the workout and  would have done 120 pull ups total so I would have still felt amazing but I wouldn’t have gotten the same benefit as I did by doing the weighted pull ups.

My personal take home from yesterday was simple, sometimes the most growth and results come from taking time and being detailed.  It wasn’t when I finished but that I finished and finished fulfilled. Be patient and persevere and you will finish as you should! The right way isn’t always the easy way!

How you do anything is how you do everything.

Be well. Love and light.

Love. Laugh. Adjust.

January 18, 2010 Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

January 18, 2010

How is your VISION? Can you see clearly exactly what you want? Can you articulate it? Don’t be nearsighted…be able to see the future clearly!  Create a crystal clear vision and watch it unfold.

Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

Love. Laugh. Adjust.

January 11, 2010 Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

January 11, 2010

Our thoughts create our reality…a positive mindset is imperative.  Developing a positive mindset is a powerful life strategy, which allows us to achieve whatever we desire.  What is your self-talk like? Is it positive? Is it encouraging? After all you are your own #1 fan…cheer yourself on! Daily positive affirmations and positive thinking will allow you to develop the positive attitude necessary to strengthen your inner power! Speak to yourself as though it is and watch it manifest! Be limitless!

Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

Love. Laugh. Adjust.